If you knew something was going to make you sick, or potentially kill you, aka its toxic, would you drink it anyway?
I’m hoping all of you answered no!
So, with that out-of-the-way here’s another question: if you’re willing to avoid ingesting toxic things, then why are you not willing to cut out or avoid other toxic things in your life as well?
There are so many aspects of our lives these days that have become toxic, yet we continue to subject ourselves to them everyday. But why?!
Think about it this way, with my little analogy:
You have an amazing car that you treat like it’s your first-born child. And in this car you spend a little extra to only fill it with the expensive premium gas.
Why then, are you not willing to fill yourself with ‘premium’ too? Premium relationships that uplift you and support you, premium food that nourishes your body and makes you healthy, or premium use of your time instead of wasting it on things or people who don’t matter?
We must detox ourselves from the things that are slowly poisoning our lives, and opt to live a more premium lifestyle.
So here’s my own personal guide on how to detox your life! Keep reading for more 🙂
Identify the Toxins
In order to cleanse your life, you have to know what exactly is toxifying it!
So here are 8 of the most common toxic things in our lives to help you figure out yours:
- Harmful friendships
- Unhealthy eating habits
- Unfulfilling career
- Clutter : in your house, your closet, your car etc.
- All work and no play
- Social media addiction
- Wanting what you can’t have
- Negative self-talk
Now that you have an idea of what the toxins in your life are, here is a run through of how you can go about cleansing them from your system!
It’s true that we as humans are genetically social creatures, and we have filled our lives with friendships and relationships to fulfill our constant need for communication and interaction; among of course, other needs.
Sometimes, however, these relationships can become negative and even harmful. It happens, not every egg is a good one. Think about the golden eggs from Willy Wonka, the bad eggs happened every so often and needed to be disposed of down the garbage shoots. So, it’s time to dispose of the bad eggs in your own life!
A friend should be someone who loves you and supports you no matter what. The people you can call day or night with your problems, your concerns, your funny stories, and your tears. After all, your friends are the family that you get to choose!
So, why would you choose to be friends with someone who isn’t good for you?
Maybe they’re fun sometimes, and invite you to cool parties or every once in awhile do something nice for you. But, if they are not making you feel good, supported, loved, or happy why bother letting them in?
A bad friend is someone who talks about you behind your back, or even talks badly to your face and cuts you down. They use you for your friendship, and only take from you what they want and need; and they never reciprocate. They are fair-weather friends, who only come around when they need something from you and that’s all.
Listen people, this isn’t elementary school where we have to send Valentines cards to everyone in our class, or invite everyone to our birthday parties because it’s the right thing to do; we are adults now and ain’t nobody got time for people who aren’t good for us!
So do yourself a favor and cut those people from your life who are not good for you! Yes, it is important to be kind, always! But this also means you need to be kind to yourself; so they have got to go.
Unhealthy Eating Habits
This one is a tough one – trust me, I know!
But back to my car analogy : why not put premium fuel into your body like you do with your vehicle?
The old saying “you are what you eat” is so much more valid than any of us want to admit on those days that we binge on chocolate, donuts, and all the breads. But, despite our denial, what we eat greatly affects everything inside of us!
Unhealthy eating habits can zap your energy, and also cause you to have trouble sleeping! Quite the bad combination!
Bad food choices can also obviously make you gain weight, hurt your heart, cause depression and anxiety, and overall just make you feel sluggish.
Reading all of that, you can’t honestly be OK with any of those consequences, am I right?
But like I said, I get it! Eating healthy alllll the time is hard! But trying to eat healthy as much as possible, and allowing certain times where you can indulge in treats or having a “cheat meal” is the better route to go.
Start by writing out a meal plan, and trying to stick to it! And schedule the day you’re going to have your cheat meal, to give you something to look forward to!
Eating healthy does not have to be boring or bland either; it can still be incredibly delicious and satisfying! Some of my favorite recipes come from the Whole30 cookbooks, which you can find all of those here. Or, get creative and find a new healthy recipe you want to try on Pinterest or from a friend!
Start fueling your body with the premium healthy food that it needs, and cleanse yourself from all the toxins that unhealthy eating habits can add! The higher quality the fuel, the more miles the vehicle will go 😉
Now this is one that I personally can testify to. Working in a job or field where you find no fulfillment or passion for is soooo exhausting and demotivating.
It’s hard enough to go to work everyday, but having an unfulfilling job makes that 1000 times worse.
If you find yourself in this situation, take a real serious look into what it is you really want to do with your life and your career.
- What are you passionate about?
- What are your long term goals for your career?
- What makes you feel fulfilled?
- What do you love doing?
- What are you strengths in a career choice?
After you figure some of those answers out, start looking into what it is you really want to do. Look up jobs, research career options, or even school!
Me? My current dream is to work in the humanitarian field full time. I’ve been researching some schools I could go to to receive a Master’s in global humanities. It will be a lot of work, and most definitely will involve me moving to a different state (or even a different country!) but if I dream big enough I can make it become my reality.
Just like you can! Figure out what you really want to do, and make it happen.
We all have it. Its everywhere: in our kitchens, our basements, our bedrooms, our cars, and especially in our closets. CLUTTER!
Have you seen those shows where they go into someone’s home who is a hard-core hoarder?? Now I know most of us are not that extremely infected by clutter, but even just a small amount of clutter and mess can affect our everyday lives.
Compare it to your mind: if you mind is bombarded and crowded with lots of different, and mostly meaningless thoughts, it has trouble focusing on the things that it needs to! Well, the same goes for everywhere we live, work, and exist in.
If there is clutter, it can subconsciously cause stress and anxiety, make you feel lazy and less motivated, and honestly it makes you less desirable sometimes.
Have you heard that saying that says something like “dress for the job you want?” Well, create your space for the life you want to live!
Anytime my room is a mess, I feel like my life is also a mess. When I’m clean, organized, and have no clutter; my life reflects that as well.
Do yourself a solid and de-clutter! Start small, and little by little your entire life will be made-over!
All Work and No Play
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
Or, Aly a dull girl.
This proverb, whose origination is unclear, basically is saying if all you do is work and you never take time to relax or do other things you love; your life will be dull and you will be bored and/or boring.
Think about Rhianna’s song Work. The lyrics are so monotonous, basically saying over and over again “work work work work work.” And Rhianna herself couldn’t sound any more bored as she slurs those words in the song! Right?? All work makes even Rhianna a dull girl.
My point is, it’s great to be a hard-working and motivated person; but you also need to take the time for you! Otherwise your work can become toxic to your happiness.
Go do your favorite hobbies, relax and read, go hiking, go to the gym; whatever makes you happy!
Bottom line: take the time for “you” time! Because who wants to live a dull life? I’m pretty sure no-one!
Social Media Addiction
I know I just wrote a whole post about my social media fast here. But I could definitely go on and on about how important it is to break our very real addictions to social media.
Obviously, there are some very great and useful reasons for social media!
On the other hand, there are also some bad things that stem from it as well.
Comparison is the thief of joy, and unfortunately it’s hard to not compare your life to everyone’s seemingly perfect and fun life as you scroll through your feeds. I mean, who are these young attractive people with perfect bodies, who only ever seem to go on vacations and travel??
Well, the truth is no one wants to post the nitty-gritty and bad parts of our lives for the world to see; we want to post beautiful, fun, well edited, and cleverly captioned photos.
So we don’t see the truth.
As soon as we can realize reality versus what is posted on social media, then it can still be something we can keep in our lives. But that’s definitely a distinction you need to make clear within yourself!
Also, it’s addicting as hell! Literally it has become a habit for me to pick up my phone and open Instagram or Facebook without even thinking!
And what an incredible time-waster too! There have been moments, I will admit, where I will open a funny video of a cute dog or some sort of animal, and end up scrolling for almost an hour in a feed of animal videos before I even realize it! Like HELLO! Addicted. But don’t judge me… I know y’all are obsessed with the cute animal videos just like I am 😉
We have to make efforts to cut ourselves off from social media. After my fast of 7 days, I made it a goal to only get on social media during certain hours of the day, and the rest of the day I’m forbidden to look at them.
It’s tough, I won’t lie, but it makes SUCH a difference!
Go ahead and try it, or do a full fast/cleanse of your own! You’ll realize how toxic social media can become, and how much better you’ll feel when you break your addiction.
Wanting What You Can’t Have
Story of my life.
Story of anyone’s life who is dating, has dated, or will someday date.
Story of … well, long story short, of everyone in the world relating to just about anything!
Why do we always want what we can’t have? I honestly think its just a defense mechanism embedded within our DNA to keep us driven; to keep us wanting more and chasing bigger and better dreams.
But, the downfall is sometimes we can end up lusting for things that we can never have; and in some cases, shouldn’t ever have.
It’s ok to dream and to have a goal to achieve something you want, or to try to date someone you really like. BUT, it is not healthy to obsess and lust after something so intensely and so badly when it is something that you may never reach.
Knowing the difference, and having a healthy balance of wanting what you can’t have opposed to what you can have. Just don’t let the appeal of wanting what you can’t have poison your happiness! It’s like baking with vanilla extract; a little bit can perfectly flavor your life, but too much and it’s toxic!
Negative self-talk is a tough habit to break. That ugly, self-doubting, and ruthless bully in my head started in my early teenage years and still reappears every so often to cut me down. We can be our own worst critics, and it can poison our self-confidence!
Something I have learned to do to help silence the negative voice, is positive affirmations. Sounds cheesy, but they honestly work!
I like to read positive affirmations every morning when I wake up, to help start off my day with positive and motivating thoughts. I really believe that however you spend the first 20 minutes when you wake up can set the tone for the rest of the day!
Here’s a good one I focused on this morning:
I have survived every negative experience in my lifetime so far. I have not only survived, I have thrived.
To heal from any hurt, I must feel every emotion that I need to go through.
I never push my feelings down or try to cover them up. I face them, sit with them, learn and grow from them.
I find my strength through love. I am strong and so very powerful.
Try it out tomorrow morning! Find a positive affirmation, or something uplifting and inspiring, and read it and ponder on it when you first wake up. Let me know what you read in the comments!
The Life Cleanse
Try to figure out even just one or two things in your life that are becoming toxic waste to you, and are affecting you more deeply than you may even realize.
Cleansing your life from things that do you nothing but harm is so important. Take the time to remove things that are poisoning your happiness, and move forward in a new chapter in your life!